Yesterday was a milestone -- the kid turned 3!!!!!
We celebrated it with her pre-school group. This was the first birthday that she could understand and appreciate, so it was a big deal for me. We ordered the ice cream cake, she blew out the candles as the kids sang "happy birthday" to her. Dad took pictures while i helped with the cake. S was happy, although still a bit confused. Afterwards we went to the playground for a bit and ended the day with a pizza outing. The presents are still to be presented, since last night we got home to her bedtime. We shell see how she will enjoy those today -- we got two: the 3-d vision that dad wanted her to have and the 'guitar' that i picked out.
She has been experiencing a growth spurt lately -- understanding more and speaking more. She started asking "why" and "where" a lot about a month ago. She started using the word "because" and "actually". I definitely feel that i enjoy her more and more with each passing day, as she turns into her own person with her own thoughts and ideas. I can't wait to see her grow up!!!
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
True Love
From my personal observation, there is a general lack of understanding of that "true love" is. People are taught about love by Hollywood, were sentimentality and emotions, along with sexual chemistry is presented as love. It may look compelling on the screen, but it is disconnected from reality. Emotions are unstable, ever changing, they come and go, affected by everything from our own hormones to the phases of the moon. Fulfilling adult relationships are much different.
True love is built upon a choice, and it is very much a covenant, with no back door option of divorce. Both people have to go "all in": both people must make a conscious choice to love and to build together. An integral part of that choice is acceptance of the flaws and weaknesses in each other, and commitment to put in the work required for changing those. That change does not constitute giving up one's identity, but it is a process of self-improvement with the help from the partner.True love is experienced though this process of putting yourself out for another person, through helping each other grow into a better
person and a better partner. And, in turn, seeing the results of the transformation in yourself magnifies the feeling of love.
True love is built upon a choice, and it is very much a covenant, with no back door option of divorce. Both people have to go "all in": both people must make a conscious choice to love and to build together. An integral part of that choice is acceptance of the flaws and weaknesses in each other, and commitment to put in the work required for changing those. That change does not constitute giving up one's identity, but it is a process of self-improvement with the help from the partner.True love is experienced though this process of putting yourself out for another person, through helping each other grow into a better
person and a better partner. And, in turn, seeing the results of the transformation in yourself magnifies the feeling of love.
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