And another thing

"Nothing that’s worthwhile is ever easy" -- may be the most motivating quote of all, well, at least to me. That does not mean that, akin to old Russian communist leaders, you should expand enormous efforts to turn rivers' flow in the opposite direction, but it does mean that a considerable amount of work is generally required to achieve nice results. Relationships and marriages are no exception. Often it is hard to talk when you are in a state of discourse, but it is precisely then when it is the most required. Not allowing for any sense of resentment to build up is the hardest work, but the pay-off is so wonderful -- that lifting up, un-earthly in-love feeling that picks you up to carry you through anything that the daily "real life" throws at you! And, once again, i feel whole, and home, and warm and everything else that doesn't rhyme with anything!