"Following a streak of misbehavior and whining, we are now upon a golden belt of positivity and perfection" - that's the headline of this post, and it refers to the change in S's attitude and behavior. This, once again, proves my earlier theory that everything in life (and in child's development) has a cyclical characteristic. We have already gone through several negative, defiant stages followed by honeymoon-like periods of sweet family love, explaining away the change by some brilliant action of ours, or blaming the bad times on something external. Now that we obverve it again, i am more convinced that its just a growth burst, a stage of development, that prompts her to act out, to push boundaries, in her attempt to make sense of the world. And then she settles in with this new understanding, and she is content, until something else arises that causes her to challenge her understanding, causing yet another grows spurt and, consequently, misbehavior.
But now, when things are calm and good, it my job to capitalize on it, to gather strength and to grow and nurture our mutual love. And, its my job to remember this when times are tough, and not to take her growing pains personally, but take it like any parent would, without a chip on my shoulder.
Nobody said parenting is easy, but i think it is rewarding, when you can see maturing, growth and progress, you know that most of it is directly your influence.
Last week the Feras were in town. It was so nice to see them, and to have some company here. I am also super amused at how Rachel made an impression on S, and how her non-matching socks are now "the-thing-to-do", while my non-matching socks previously has been just a subject of a "it's not the same" comment in a slightly negative tone. 'This is another example that parents are not "cool"in the eyes of the kids, even at a very early age.
On our recent entertainment: last weekend we went to the Chineese new year parade, which was so totally lame, but we managed to have a really good time. And the following day, a free day at the Children's museum sent C to the semi-comatose state of mind, as S and I thoroughly enjoyed our time.
And, next weekend is some alone quality time for C and I, and i am already glad to have an agenda, starting with a much needed haircut on Fri for C with our hair goddess April, followed by perhaps some romantic walking around. In the morning, a run to East LA for breakfast and Modern Art Museum outing in the afternoon, and late night ice skating are to take place in the evening. A late wake-up with unlimited Mimosa brunch at Luna Park on Sunday, and Center for Photography trip later in the day. If this sounds full-packed, C also suggested to slide in a sunset campfire at the beach on Saturday, but i fear that would end up making us too tired (or too relaxed) for any ice skating later, which may be the whole reason C was trying to suggest it in the first place, as he would very much like to cancel ice skating, i think...
Overall, these can be officially called "the good times", because C has been feeling good at his job, ever since he took on drafting, S has been behaving, and i feel amorous, harmonious with everything around me and full of love for life, for my child, for my husband. I can't credit therapy for it, or the book i am reading, but i am sure its the sum of all things, and every little bit helps.
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