on tolerating people

luckily, years bring not only wrinkles, aches and pains and loss of muscle mass, but also certain amount of insight and some wisdom. As i examine my face in the mirror and find permanent traces of my past emotions engraved on my skin, i also realize that they are connected to some important life realizations that i would not like to give back for anything, not even for flawless skin of a 20 year old. One of these realization is that, just like everything else in life, human character is a package. Every virtue has its counter weighing flaw. Every aspect of one's personality that we enjoy arises out of his/hers personality structure that will also cause some characteristics that we don't particularly appreciate. For instance, there can not be a 'laid-back' person who gets things done immediately. If we enjoy them being laid-back, we must accept that they will also take leisurely attitude about urgent matters. If we enjoy someone's social friendliness, we must expect that person to keep multiple social connections with many people. So, when seeing someone's virtue, we must think what personality attribute it is connected to, in order to be able to "preview" the flaws that are caused by it. We can apply the same principle when being annoyed by someone's personality trait, by looking at the positive aspects that this trait is likely to bring.